Tuesday

"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans..."

- John Lennon
 
I woke up this morning to a cool breeze coming in our window. I could hear the rustle of the leaves on the trees, the sky was grey and the hot, humid weather was gone. This little hint that Fall is around the corner was the perfect start to my day! I am so ready to say good-bye to summer and hello to Fall clothing, pumpkin spice lattes, pickles, crisp fresh air and a better TV schedule!
 
The best part about this morning? I opened my eyes at 7am and it was the cool breeze that woke me, not an alarm clock. This is huge! Hey all you morning people, how do you do it? I give HUGE PROPS to those of you who can enjoy a coffee, watch the news or exercise before going to work. I am usually rushing, cranky and half asleep going out the door in the morning.

A few weeks ago I wrote a post called Me Time, Much Needed Me Time! where I talk about my need to find balance and make changes in my daily routine. One of the changes I decided I would make is to start listening to my body when it's telling me it's tired, and getting to bed earlier so that I can enjoy my mornings. Being a huge late night TV junkie, I'm proud to say that last night was my second time this week turning the TV off instead of staying up to watch my shows. Opting out of watching Bachelor Pad to go to bed early gave me two extra hours of sleep that I can really feel the benefits of this morning. Yay me! 

(I was really excited to give you that update.) I don't often listen to my body and do what's best for me, but lately I've been doing really good finding a balance. Putting my to do, must do, should do lists aside and just going with the flow, spending more time with friends, playing golf, relaxing on the beach and getting to bed earlier each night... I've even tried out some great new recipes!
 
I received a lot of encouraging notes from you, my readers, telling me how I can enjoy Me Time without feeling like I'm wasting time. I realize that making plans all the time is setting standards for myself that I can hardly ever meet. This leaves me feeling unproductive and tired at the end of the day, and enough is enough. Thank you all for your helpful advice and like always, thank you for reading. I love my blogging family!
 
 
Rachel Emmilee
XO




Our Honeymoon

JUST MARRIED was strung across the back of the Jeep, we packed anything and everything we'd need on a road trip, and we hit the pavement. I highly recommend road trips, especially on your honeymoon! After the rush of Wedding planning, partying and entertaining family and friends, the alone time together is so nice. Being alone in the car with G is one of my favorite places to be, tunes up loud, a picnic basket of snacks packed and nothing to do but enjoy the sights with no worry of time.






We drove for what seemed like forever, made some fun stops along the way and finally arrived in Bangor. We got a room, crashed and in the morning set out for Kittery where we did some shopping and touring around. Kittery is a very cute little town with nice people, great prices and great food. We walked from one shop to another and stopped for delicious fish n' chips at the cutest little diner. Keeping to Boston, we knew we had to take advantage of being in our friends neighborhood, so we met up with him and, cracked a beer and made some evening plans. He and his girlfriend took us to Strega on the Boston waterfront for dinner and it was unlike anything we're used to in Cape Breton; Italian posh with a Soprano vibe - almost intimidating. Our meal was amazing and the red wine completed the whole Italian experience. After dinner, we were off to Cheers for some drinks.



My Dad watched Cheers all the time, so it was pretty cool to hang out at the actual set.


Dinner at Strega.



. Yum! Eggs Benny and Iced Coffee at Vic's Waffle House...
One of the biggest highlights of our honeymoon, believe it or not... even for me... was seeing the Sox vs. Yankees at Fenway Park. We had amazing seats right on the field between home and first base. Within talking distance of the players, we felt like we were right in the middle of all the action! The energy, the noise, the food and of course the game made for an experience I will never forget. Needless to say, the playing of Sweet Caroline was one of my favorite moments.


We went down to Yawkey Way four hours before game time. Our friend wanted us to experience the rush of the fans in the streets. I couldn't believe the sight of thousands of fans sitting around waiting for the gates to open. The energy was awesome!
Here, we're having beers and grub at Cask N' Flagon before the game. Representin' the Sox with some brand new gear.





Inside Fenway Park getting ready to watch the game! Um, excited much?

BIG Papi






At the Yard House after the game.

We toured around Boston from the back seat, enjoyed all the sights, bar hopped and spent quality time with friends and even had a visit with some cousins. Boston was great and I can't wait to go back, but we were ready to move on to our next destination for some alone time.





The GPS was set for Herwich, Cape Cod. This town was absolutely gorgeous, like something out of a magazine. We enjoyed all the sights, took photos and visited some local shops and small businesses.  It was so nice to be tourists on our own with no directions or distractions. The people were very friendly and the weather was perfect all day, everyday. In a private, romantic beach house set right on the sand we unpacked our bags and settled in for the week. We spent our days relaxing, cracking beers at all hours of the day and had no shortage of tanning sessions or BBQ goodness. When you start to become bored with the sun and the sand, that's when you know you've reached the peak of vacation relaxation... But I didn't mind!








Looking into our cottage, looking out at the beach!




Everyday, crushing beers.



A tad bit sun drunk in this one... :)


That's me braving the water knowing that sharks weren't far from the area only days ago... Two Great Whites were spotted only 30ft from shore! Notice how I am the only one in the water? Even G is watching from the house... Hehehe

A relaxing evening. I have to admit to caving and watching The Bachelorette on Monday night, and even forced G to watch it with me...

I couldn't get enough of our late night walks on the beach, early morning swims and sand between our toes at all times. It made for a vacation that will be hard to beat. It was tough locking up and leaving it behind, but we'll be back again and again! I'd like to thank Mark and Kim who, at the very last minute on July 4th weekend accepted our request to rent their beach house. I would highly recommend this spot to any Cape Cod vacationers! Set right on the beach, it's quiet and romantic at night but busy during the day giving you the feeling that you're on a beach in Miami. Just down the road from adorable shops and great restaurants, you have everything you need and more right at your fingertips. The house was very clean, private and the owners were so very kind to accommodate all our needs!

When we left Cape Cod, we drove as far as NB. We weren't really in a rush to get home, but we looked forward to spending the remainder of the weekend on our own couch. We decided to book our last night away from NS at a fancy-shmancy Hotel. It was our first time asking for an upgrade on our travels, and it was so worth it. The room was so fabulous I could have stayed there for days taking advantage of the fluffy robes and the monster jet tub in the bedroom. The next day, we drove the last leg of our trip and arrived home... Back to reality, ready to get back into our regular routine and settle into married life. 

As they say, the honeymoon isn't over until you say it's over!

Rachel Emmilee
XO

Monday

Wedding Photos


I would love to share all of my Wedding photos with you, but I know that wouldn't be right. Our Wedding Photographer, Betty Anne Cameron, did a fantastic job capturing every moment that we will want to cherish forever and ever. She didn't miss anything and every shot captures the happiness we felt on that day. Photos of our friends and family are being kept private, but here are just a few more of us that I am happy to share with you all! Click here to see my all time favorite shots from the collection.

Enjoy,
Rachel Emmilee
XO

I love this photo of me in the mirror. I am loving the tight curls that came from the rollers I was wearing all morning. I felt so beautiful! My best friend Tessa set my hair first thing in the morning, and with only 30 minutes before going to the Church, she pulled them out. It took her minutes to get my hair ready, and at the end of the night I threw all of her hard work up in a top knot!



Can you say handsome!?

 Because my Hubby is only an inch taller than me, he made one request for our Wedding day... That I don't tower over him in high heels! I decided to take him shopping with me to ensure that the shoes I picked got his stamp of approval, it was a funny experience and the girls in the store got a good laugh out of us!



I love that this moment was captured in a photo, I was so excited to see G but so overwhelmed by the crowd that I just started laughing and had to look down! My Dad looks really proud too!

White Roses with seeded Eucalyptus

 
Riley and Sophie, my niece and nephew and the two most adorable children I know!


Home :)

Thursday

ME time, much needed ME time!

Soft music playing, the smell of an aged antique home and every so often, nature hitting my face with a breeze from an open window. A crisp sheet covering my body and nothing to do but relax. I could get used to this... Me time, much needed me time!

As the Massage Therapist stripped through my shoulder muscles she asked, "Have you cried enough?"

Being a Massage Therapist I know that sometimes conversations during treatment can get a bit deep, so I had no problem opening up to her. I thought about it for a second and eventually replied, "My family would argue that I'm a very emotional person, I feel like I talk about my feelings enough... But I guess I keep a lot in and often I get overwhelmed by my feelings... Maybe I haven't cried enough..."

The Therapist sensed that I need a good cry or an emotional release. She thinks I am holding onto negative stress and negative memories which is resulting in muscle tension and poor posture. I knew what she was getting at, as a Therapist I know that muscles hold memory. She had known from my first visit that in the last three years I have experienced a lot of change in my life. Good stress, bad stress, stress that I haven't properly dealt with or responded to.

After chatting for a while, she gathered that I am a giver not a taker, and asked how often I treat myself to fun or look for attention from others. The answer to that is not often. She asked me how much time I make for myself in the run of a day? A week? The answer to that is not much. She asked me if there is balance in my life; balance between work and play, social time and alone time, sleep, food etc. My answer to that was no, no and no.

I know I have to make a conscious effort to improve the balance in my life. Seeing a Massage Therapist regularly is a good start, but that can't be it. Too often, I turn down social time to be productive at home, and too often I ignore the urge to do things I enjoy only to follow the crowd, sleep a bit longer, or be lazy watching television. I care more about making other people happy than making myself happy, I rarely put my own needs first. I don't feel there are enough hours in the day to work and play, so I don't even try. I need to find balance. I need to know when to say no to friends and family and focus on myself, I need to know when to say NO to productivity and YES to fun.





To address to negativity that I am holding on to, the therapist encouraged a practice that involves being alone in a safe, comfortable place free of distractions. Whether it be your private back yard or the beach, surround yourself in a security circle of candles, rocks, photos or any other items that bring you comfort. Consider that you may be there a while so bring tissues, water and warmth. It's important not to make plans to socialize afterwards or entertain guests. Once you are comfortable in your security circle, all you have to do is talk out loud. Talk to yourself, talk to someone who passed, talk to someone you hold a grudge against. Imagine the energy waves are delivering your messages to them and once the words leave your lips, they are gone forever. Release all the pain, hurt, guilt, sadness or failure you feel. Afterwards, refresh your mind and body with a salt bath or a swim in the ocean... Cleanse and feel free of all the feelings that were holding you back.


We all know how good it feels to get things off our chest, so I really look forward to doing this healing exercise. If any of you try it out, I'd love to hear how you felt afterwards and what the experience was like for you. Here are some other things I'd like to incorporate into my weekly routine to add some balance...

Weekend baking...
Experimenting with food, actually using the recipes that I have collected over the years...
Early morning exercise...
Waking up with enough time to try on a few outfits, style my hair, enjoy breakfast.
Saturday afternoon walks or any physical activity instead of nursing a hangover...
Evening sunsets...
Putting my art room to good use, shutting off the television and picking up a paint brush.
Meditation...
Visiting my sisters resting place...
Making more time for my Nanny...
Stop wasting my week nights on house cleaning...
Saying YES to more social time...
Training for an athletic endeavor...
Spending time in our gardens, planting, weeding and improving the overall look and feel of "our" outside.

In closing, I think it is safe to say my Massage Therapist is doing the work of three different types of Therapists combined because I'm getting way more out of these visits than just decreased muscle tension.  Already I feel more relaxed and aware of what is going on around me; I see how quickly I react to stress rather than respond to it and how I easily give into things I should be doing instead doing what I want to do. That is going to change!

Do you have any encouraging advice? Tell me about your Me Time, why is it yours and no one elses and how often do you treat yourself?

Rachel Emmilee

XO



Happy Birthday, Sweet Sister...

yesterday was my sister's birthday. she's in heaven, 22 years old. i was emotional on and off all day. i was thinking of her and all the things we'd have in common at this point in our lives being in our twenties together. my spirits were lifted throughout the day signing into facebook to see messages from family and friends who are also remembering her today.

i spent the afternoon with some of my favorite people, g of course, his mom, and my parents... pool, bbq and some laughs, christine wouldn't have had it any other way.

i couldn't bring myself to visit her grave, i have only been there 4 times since... it seems to be a lot easier for my parents and sister, but it just really brings me down. it's something i need to work on. sitting around yesterday with my family, i thought about how much she would love our "new" home and the pool especially. i find it so hard to accept that she died before i moved home, before i bought a house, before i got married, before i could start a family of my own... we would have had so much fun living 10 minutes away from each other... there are so many things that i would love to share with her, even Glee... She would freaking love Glee.

happy birthday, sweet sister... xoxo

rachel emmilee
xo